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TM875 · 07-14-2004, 08:13 PM

Allright, everyone - there comes a time in one's life when he suddenly realizes something that's been hitting him in the face forever. Something that's finally, obviously, been revealed.

After nearly four years, my girlfriend and I are offically, forever, apart. I have spent the last years of my life doing everything possible - sometimes things that have hurt me greatly - in order to keep her happy.

This summer, she went to Europe. Before the trip, she was constantly saying how she loved me and how she would miss me so much. Returning..guess what! "Oh, yea, I met someone on the trip..." No preparation....I just suddenly couldn't be with her. To say that she's never done something like this before would be a lie - I've just never felt so strongly about the actions that I'm gonna take.

Naturally, at first I was upset. Angry. Incredibly sad. She did this to me with no hint of it previous. I thought that our relationship was finally back on track to where it was a few years ago. Guess I was wrong.

I have given her everything that I have ever had. She is my life - I have nothing without her. Now, at first I was sure that I was just gonna let myself slide into a deep depression. Not anymore.

After spending sometime with her and her family tonight, I realize that I still have what is most important to me - the relationship with her family. I've always felt more a part of them than I ever did with my own (mainly, because my relationship with her has pushed me away from my family). I realized - she is now my sister, not my girlfriend. I can feel protective, but, in the end, how I feel cannot effect her life.

I am convinced that no one will ever put up with the shit that I have. She will be hard pressed to ever find anyone willing to do for her what I have done. She will never be happy, for she will always demand change and something new. I understand this now. Instead of forever fighting to keep her happy (keeping myself miserable in the process), I now have the chance, the obligation, to go out and find someone who will support me the way I need it.

I've lost my family because of her. I've lost financial security. I've lost friends and the chance to learn social skills. I've nearly lost my life. I refuse to lose anything more to keep her happy.

This is my moment of zen for the night. Fellow TFP'ers, post any revelations that you might have stumbled across recently. It doesn't have to be monumental - could be something as simple as realizing that Starbucks purposefully trys to turn its customers into addicts. Spread your knowledge and newfound rationale onto the world!

07-14-2004, 08:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
TM875 Addict Location: Amish-land, PA	Post Revelations That You've Made... Allright, everyone - there comes a time in one's life when he suddenly realizes something that's been hitting him in the face forever. Something that's finally, obviously, been revealed. After nearly four years, my girlfriend and I are offically, forever, apart. I have spent the last years of my life doing everything possible - sometimes things that have hurt me greatly - in order to keep her happy. This summer, she went to Europe. Before the trip, she was constantly saying how she loved me and how she would miss me so much. Returning..guess what! "Oh, yea, I met someone on the trip..." No preparation....I just suddenly couldn't be with her. To say that she's never done something like this before would be a lie - I've just never felt so strongly about the actions that I'm gonna take. Naturally, at first I was upset. Angry. Incredibly sad. She did this to me with no hint of it previous. I thought that our relationship was finally back on track to where it was a few years ago. Guess I was wrong. I have given her everything that I have ever had. She is my life - I have nothing without her. Now, at first I was sure that I was just gonna let myself slide into a deep depression. Not anymore. After spending sometime with her and her family tonight, I realize that I still have what is most important to me - the relationship with her family. I've always felt more a part of them than I ever did with my own (mainly, because my relationship with her has pushed me away from my family). I realized - she is now my sister, not my girlfriend. I can feel protective, but, in the end, how I feel cannot effect her life. I am convinced that no one will ever put up with the shit that I have. She will be hard pressed to ever find anyone willing to do for her what I have done. She will never be happy, for she will always demand change and something new. I understand this now. Instead of forever fighting to keep her happy (keeping myself miserable in the process), I now have the chance, the obligation, to go out and find someone who will support me the way I need it. I've lost my family because of her. I've lost financial security. I've lost friends and the chance to learn social skills. I've nearly lost my life. I refuse to lose anything more to keep her happy. This is my moment of zen for the night. Fellow TFP'ers, post any revelations that you might have stumbled across recently. It doesn't have to be monumental - could be something as simple as realizing that Starbucks purposefully trys to turn its customers into addicts. Spread your knowledge and newfound rationale onto the world! __________________ "I've made only one mistake in my life. But I made it over and over and over. That was saying 'yes' when I meant 'no'. Forgive me."