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here's the thing. if you DON'T confront her with it, it's going to plant a seed of mistrust. you'll never know WHY she hid it from you, and you will resent her and never have full confidence in her words again. that will be devastating, so you NEED to confront her.
BUT, that doesn't mean accuse her. there could be perfectly good reasons for her hiding it, which is why you shouldn't judge her before you hear her explanation, calmly and without passing judgement.
i caught my ex in a lie once, and it pissed the shit out of me. mostly because it made me realize she was capable of lying to me- which is a huge issue in my book. on top of that, it was lying about a past relationship. i got over it though, when we talked about it. she explained that she didn't tell me because it wasn't relevant and would only cause pain on my behalf. i explained to her that i prefer knowledge over ignorance and bliss anyday. and that from then on, she should be absolutely, bluntly honest, and not try and sugarcoat anything from me. we worked it out, and it was fine.
eventually she hid more things from me for the same reason, she didn't want to hurt me. it eventually caused us to break up.
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