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Coercion is something I will never agree with in child rearing
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Well, I'm glad if one can raise a child without it, but I do not understand how.
The times I was referring to were when despite what you tell your child they continue to do what they were doing wrong. You can tell them, "Go to your room... time out.... dang it time out," but if they continue not listen to you, what next.
My only point is that sometimes the chance for non-physical solutions come and go. Then your left with a kid who did something wrong, maybe worse.
"No Johny, don't go outside or its time out... No, don't run away from me or its off to your room... No No don't run out into the road or you're grounded.... hey... .... o shit"
I happen to think that "NO" is the most important thing for a child to learn to keep you sane and them alive. So if they test the boundry of "NO" hell yes I will physically dominate by force(coerce) them if need be.
I have to add that I, as a child, was never spanked, save one fluke incident, and I like to think I turned into a properly functioning member of society. At the same time, my parents have told me that of the five they raised I was by far the easiest, and the others got spanked. Thats just a testament that all children react differently to different stimuli.
Thats just me though. There is no counting to 3 for my little girl. She gets one chance to do what I say.
Pinki, aside from a slightly different outlook about physical punishment and when to implement it, I don't think I could agree with you more completely. Children learning from their own mistakes, right on. Allowed to make wrong decisions, absolutely. Good stuff.
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