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Actually, no, we don't. There are years and years of study and overwhelmingly repetitive professional opinion to back it up. People put themselves in everyday situations expecting to NOT be raped, NOT be beaten, and NOT be killed. When this crime happens, it is purely out of a feeling of power, not what the girl is wearing.

First of all, why the hell would you tell your girl to put a bra on? It's her clothes, man. If you don't enjoy the presence of a woman who chooses the way she looks, and sometimes that means free-range boobage for you- than perhaps this is the wrong girl, and you need something more along the lines of a Stepford wife (reference to wives brainwashed into being perfectly subservient).

For the shirt/dress, I have a friend who has one of those. She thinks it's cute, she thinks it's sexy, and the price she pays for wearing it is showing off some ass if she bends over, and some crotch if she doesnt' perfectly cross her legs. It's still her option.

I know 8 million guys who cry foul when their girlfriend says, "you're gonna wear THAT?" or "can't you dress more nicely for me?" or some other variation, because they don't like being controlled.

I'm curious- are these sentiments coming from an older generation that is either 1.) becoming more conservative in their years (read: prudes) or 2.) of a mindset that their women are their property and can be told what to do for every facet of their life, down to if they wear a bra or a certain kind of dress?

If it were really an issue, you should have resolved it already. Share a dialogue, don't deliver a sermon. You know you get preachy, just accept it and move on towards a discussion. It's the "getting defensive about preaching" portion that really pisses them off, more often than not.