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Originally posted by ShaniFaye
Why exactly doesnt this person deserve forgiveness?
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I don't understand why someone would come to a message board asking for forgiveness. And, I don't think they are asking for it here.
What is interesting is the passive-aggressive self-martyrdom tact that is being taken. If you disagree with someone, you should be able to do that without it being a personal attack, or being overly-defensive.
My main point still is that cheating puts the person on in a major moral and ethical dilemma. It isn't fair and it can easily put a long-lasting chain of doubt into a relationship, esp. if anything ever goes wrong.
If you have cheated the first thing you need to come to terms with is yourself. Getting others to agree with you that you've changed isn't really the point. The point is that you know that you've changed. Convincing others is totally meaningless. If you really want people to believe that you've changed and that is important to you, then I think you should ask yourself "why?" The importance of that task is something that is beyond me.