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raeanna74 · 06-20-2004, 04:33 PM

You fairly well summed up my sentiments about guns and sex education with regards to my daughter. I do not have a set age for what I will allow dating-wise where things can lead to sex but I think I will leave that up to the time and place. I will have to consider her emotional/mental maturity (and obviously her physical) to determine what I can trust her with. I will explain things to her in as much or little detail as SHE wants in regards to sex. She is only 3 and has already asked where she came from and I've told her that she grew in my tummy and was born (in her case by c-section). She is satisfied with that explanation. I'm not going to hide things, made things sound gross, icky, or terribly sinful. I hope to instill in her a sense of what is right when. I don't want her to just throw away her love to someone who will hurt her. I also don't want her to feel as hubby and I did - that since we'd had sex before marriage we HAD to marry to make it right. That caused us a lot of problems that had we not worked out would have doomed our marriage. It's not a healthy reason for marriage or even staying with someone in a dating relationship. I will be willing to assist in her aquiring birth control if she comes to that point while she is still living at home. I want her to be responsible and trustworthy with what she does with her body.

In regards to guns. We have 2 guns now in our home. They are kept safe and in a separate place from the ammo. She is allowed to look when hubby or I have them out and are directly supervising her. We have explained in simple terms what they are used for and how. She has seen them used. She has seen the damage they do to a target. She will be taught safety and to consider any firearm loaded even when she may believe otherwise. People have made mistakes before when they were "Sure" it was unloaded and then pulled the trigger and somehow they missed a bullet. She will be allowed to own a gun when she is of legal age to own one and I will be willing to help her buy one if she has shown me responsibility and trustworthiness.

My hope is that she heeds all my advice. My hope is that she is responsible and wise in her choices. It may not go that way but I will educate her to the best of my ability to protect her from "errors" with guns and with sex. Knowledge is power. Power in this case to protect ones self and others.

06-20-2004, 04:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	You fairly well summed up my sentiments about guns and sex education with regards to my daughter. I do not have a set age for what I will allow dating-wise where things can lead to sex but I think I will leave that up to the time and place. I will have to consider her emotional/mental maturity (and obviously her physical) to determine what I can trust her with. I will explain things to her in as much or little detail as SHE wants in regards to sex. She is only 3 and has already asked where she came from and I've told her that she grew in my tummy and was born (in her case by c-section). She is satisfied with that explanation. I'm not going to hide things, made things sound gross, icky, or terribly sinful. I hope to instill in her a sense of what is right when. I don't want her to just throw away her love to someone who will hurt her. I also don't want her to feel as hubby and I did - that since we'd had sex before marriage we HAD to marry to make it right. That caused us a lot of problems that had we not worked out would have doomed our marriage. It's not a healthy reason for marriage or even staying with someone in a dating relationship. I will be willing to assist in her aquiring birth control if she comes to that point while she is still living at home. I want her to be responsible and trustworthy with what she does with her body. In regards to guns. We have 2 guns now in our home. They are kept safe and in a separate place from the ammo. She is allowed to look when hubby or I have them out and are directly supervising her. We have explained in simple terms what they are used for and how. She has seen them used. She has seen the damage they do to a target. She will be taught safety and to consider any firearm loaded even when she may believe otherwise. People have made mistakes before when they were "Sure" it was unloaded and then pulled the trigger and somehow they missed a bullet. She will be allowed to own a gun when she is of legal age to own one and I will be willing to help her buy one if she has shown me responsibility and trustworthiness. My hope is that she heeds all my advice. My hope is that she is responsible and wise in her choices. It may not go that way but I will educate her to the best of my ability to protect her from "errors" with guns and with sex. Knowledge is power. Power in this case to protect ones self and others. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.