maleficent

A few observations.. (and don't take this as criticism either - just speaking as female)

Based on the info you have given

Your girlfriend has given up a lot to be with you. She moved (leaving friends), left a job, all that has a lot to do with her identity. She's given up a lot of herself to be with you. What are giving up for her? Yes, you have relationship baggage, so do a lot of people, but for her to do all that for you, I'm not sure is a little frustrating an answer.

Birth control pills mess with hormones, they can make a person a little bit moodier, if she notices a big difference, have her talk to her doctor about a different dosage.

Moving in together with someone is also a big change, those little things that are cute and endearing when you're only visiting for the night, all of a sudden can get on your last freakin' nerve when you are faced with it 24 hours a day. It's the little things that can destroy a relationship.

Without alcohol involved, sit down and just talk, or, as some relationship books suggest, write down, the things that bother you. BUT you need to do it in a non-accustatory way.

ie You NEVER put the seat down. Instead, it should be about ME-- It bothers me, when the bathroom seat is left up. Rather than pointing the finger at each other.

Talk to her about what your concerns are, about YOU and what's holding you back from taking the relationship to th e next step, don't compare it to your last relationship, because all relationships are different. What do you want? Then find out what she wants?

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