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Old 06-18-2004, 12:02 AM   #1 (permalink)
zenmaster10665
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Hi Guys...

I got lots of great help last time i needed from the TFP, so I thought I would try again...

Over the past 6 months, my girlfriend (of 2.5 years) and I have been arguing more and more...we have lived together for about 1.5 years and there have always been arguments in our relationship, however, recently they seem to be getting nastier, and over nothing...

My issue is this: This is very similar to the way a previous relationship of mine ended, and I am receiving a lot of pressure to get married/have kids/etc from my current partner. I love her more than anything in the world, but I dont want this to end in the same way as my last long-termer did....only this time, with a divorce, or even worse, kids involved.

Usually the really nasty arguments start after both of us have been out together with friends drinking, however, since we know now that this is the case, we have been able to repair that a bit...but it still seems somtimes that no matter what I do, we alwys end up in a fight. I have always told myself that once the bad times start outweighing the good, then it is time to end the relationship, and we have not made it to that point yet, and I want to make sure that we never do, but I am not sure how to stop getting in fights! (They are never violent, just angry and ending up in other rooms...so far we have never slept apart a full night due to an argument.)

My GF has recently gone back on the pill, and she doesnt have too many close friends where we currently live, as she moved down here and left her career to be with me....so she suggested that this might have some bearing on the fighting, but I am not sure....I find myself more and more wondering if we are truly compatible....I love this girl more than anyhting in the world and I dont want to end it with her...I just want to move on to the next stage of our reliationship, and I dont know exactly how....

Thanks for reading....and suggestions would be much appriciated
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