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Not to kick the proverbial dead horse, but I have to weigh back in on this. Everything here is directed at the motivation of the cheater, yet makes the presumption that the one cheated on was at home living a saintly life. While this may be true in certain instances, it was far from this in mine. Sexuality has always been a very big part of my life, and the sex life I enjoyed with my ex stopped (please let me repeat this, stopped) when we got married. I was in the marriage for over four years, trying to make it work, before I strayed. Let me give you an idea of the relationship at that point:
We slept in separate bedrooms, she spent every available moment at her mom's house, she wouldn't go on vacation because she didn't want to be away from her mom (hell, I went as far as planning a surprise trip to Vegas for an extended weekend, and she refused to go).
In short, we were living two separate lives. Was all of this an excuse to cheat. No it wasn't. Did it create a scenario where someone was dying for human affection and interaction, yes it did. And I slipped and fell for it.
So BooRadley, before you lump me into the group of
"You same cheating fuckers are more responsible for emotionally scarring people than any other group in existance"
I would throw it back at you and ask you if four years of emotionless union can not in and of itself also be somewhat emotionally scarring?
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