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Originally posted by dabossy2k
I found this comment interesting because this is on both sides if your the one who cheated on someone else why should we walk in your shoes. It seems to me that most of the time the one who was cheated on is the victim. Imagine how that person felt when he/she found out that the person they put a lof of trust in broke that trust, and pretty much took you for granted. So this saying probably started out of spite, but for all you cheaters out there, can you walk a mile in our shoes and expect nothing less then a lot of anger and mistrust. To be honest I really hope I never have to walk in your shoes, and I hope you never have to walk in mine. The pain that it causes is way worse then the guilt that you guys feel. Plus once you are honest and truthful you get to let all that guilt go. But the person cheated on still has to live with it and possibly start felling the jealousy and doubt, that offten occurs after someone is cheats on you. So really what I am saying is take your own advice and walk in my shoes see how it feels to be me and I bet your perception will change.
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So, we apparently get over the guilt? Rriigghhtt...reread my post, I do believe that I said i still feel remorse and guilt from the act even though it's been almost two years since I told her. I'll try to reword it so that it doesn't appear that I'm the victim, which I doubt will work, but I accept all the punishment I have recieved from my S.O. for my stupid and disgusting behavior but not everyone is the same. Due to this negative event in my life, I would say it has changed me for the positive because I now am commited to her more then ever because she accepts me as a human being, who makes REALLY bad mistakes which I won't make again.
I've stood on the line of watching friends cheat on S.O.'s before, I was actually a person before this whole act that I commited so I do know what you are talking about and I have walked in shoes that I believe are similiar to your own.
Timalkin, I'm going to disregard parts of your post because I find them disrespectful to myself and others who have decided to let you in on something that we didn't have to. As for your other part of your message. You don't think that went through my mind after it? I constantly have thoughts about she deserves someone better because of my past.
asudevil, so once a weak mind, always a weak mind? Or once stupid, always stupid?
I've built myself up from what I used to be with help from her and learning more to respect myself. This still doesn't get rid of some of the self-loathing but it helps a great deal and it helps me to keep myself in line.
doncalypso, My fiancee forgave me not to shortly after I admitted what I had done to her. There were still other issues that had to be worked out, and bridges to rebuild, trust to be remade, but she forgave me. Was this a green flag to me that I could go out and do it again? No.
From the day I told her, I've been completely faithful to her.
So again, as much as some want to claim otherwise, walk in my shoes before you decide to make a judgement against or for me.
I also would just like to point out to others that we didn't have to say a damn word, and I knew I shouldn't have opened my mouth when I hit the submit button the first time, so please respect that we pulled back a little bit of the internet veil on ourselves. And no insult you can say to me will compare to the self-degradation I have put upon myself. Even though I have done all that to myself, keep in mind that some people who tell their stories though are actual people who do actually have an emotion or two. Even though you may not like what I've done, please respect me and others enough to at least not be an ass and claim we should be shot/killed/butchered/maimed/kill ourselves/etc, because I try to not be a total ass to you.