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I'm a girl.
I almost never ever cry in public (not counting boyfriends who get to see everytihng) for a lot of reasons. For starters, there is a difference between feeling pain (both physical and emotional) and suffering for it. I will clearly acknowledge (spelling?) that something has hurt me, because that is useful, but I'm not going to feel all sorry for myself and get all worked up.
Also, I don't want to make whoever hurt me feel bad (if they are a friend) or good (if they are an enemy). If, for example, my father runs over my foot with a truck, he's going to feel horrible enough already without my falling all to peices and making him feel worse. If, also for example, some creep deliberately gives me wrong directions and gets me lost, there's no way I'm going to let him win by getting upset over it!
Finally, I often want to cry when a friend is crying, just because I feel their pain almost as much as I feel my own, but I can't imagine anything worse (at least, for me it would be horrible) than to know that my tears were making my best friend cry. Plus, I think it's important to be a steady, solid, supportive person in bad situations.
But when alone, all bets are off, including the one about not wallowing in my own misery. I figure, what's life if you can't wallow once in a while? ;-)
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