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Originally posted by BooRadley
It is in no way the 'askers' fault the girl cheats. He gives her the oppurtunity, but she makes the decision. You read that? HERS.
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Ba-da-bing! Thanks BooRadley. This is EXACTLY my point, several times on this board. I don't understand how asking a question somehow incrimates you. SHE has to make the final decision to cheat. You're just giving her the opportunity.
What happens after she says "YES" is a whole 'nother issue. And of course, what she says "YES" to. Was it sex? Then it's a question of infidelity, or maybe they have an 'open' relationship and they swing. Hey, its a small possibility, but still a possibility. Maybe she doesn't like being alone and wants out of her current relationship by having a rebound guy.
What are the guy's motives? Sex? Maybe he's a dog, lots of men are. Relationship? Maybe he's wanted to tell her that he has really wanted to talk to her but has always been intimidated by her current boyfriend.
The fact is that we just dont know and asking a question is not enough to base a definitive answer.
[edited for misspelling and more thoughts to be added :-)]