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Originally posted by maleficent
Beauty/handsomeness comes from within. A great personality shows through. Consider this scenario:
You walk into a bar, and there are two women/girls the first woman is gorgeous, she makes some of the supermodels look ugly, but she's not looking very happy. Shes frowning, any person who approacher her she frowns. The second woman, is plainer, but she's smiling, she's laughing, anyone who approaches her, she's very open. Which woman do you want to talk to?
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Bad example. A guy would
easily prefer the banal, gorgeous woman over the energetic, average looking one. This is just one of the many asymmetries in attraction of the genders. The "wounded deer" is not a turn-off at all for men, in fact, it is quite an oppurtunity. On the other hand, a guy can be physically fit, intelligent, caring, and economically prosperous but have no success with women (just like the guy who is depressed, poor, overweight, etc.). There is no female equivalent to this successful man either, because even the affable but average woman in the bar is still very attractive (just not so much relative to the sour gorgeous woman).
That being said, your weight is only the tip of the iceberg, Skettios. I'm in your situation sans the fat, but also sans the friends. I've never believed that I'm destined to be unlovable because fate is absolute BS; however, I really wonder if there's some inherently wrong with me on a physiological level that causes me to be this way (and I don't mean simply depression). It is certainly discouraging that you can be firing on all cylinders outside of relationships and not have this translate to eventual success in relationships.