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To every body who has said, I deal with this every month in my girlfriend or Fiance, Don't marry them, This is a fact of life that they have been dealing with since puberty.
As Holo said, would it be acceptable if the situation were reversed and you threatened her with violence.
Every screaming liberal in the room would be screaming bloody murder if not calling the cops if you said "your boyfriend came home you accidentaly set him off and he smacked you around" which in my opinion is the physical equivalent of the emotinal crap of her not talking to you for a day and a half.
My wife and I each have our bad days, there are days where we come home and act grumpy, shit happens you try not to take it out on the other person in your life.
PMS is a factor, like "I got stuck in traffic" or "My boss yelled at me" not a license to be pissy, the cleaning pan thing if your wife was sane should have gonna like this,
Preamble, making dinner, wife home bad day, ask about pan,
do you need it?
not really.
"Honey, I need to just unwind a bit, can I get it later", or
"I'm sorry, I've had a shit day can it just stay there for the moment"
She gets to reiterate that she is having a crap day, you don't get trampled on.
In my house, this would be followed by the person who hasn't had the horrible day asking if there is anything they could do to make the person who's day has sucked feel better.
Of course that's cause as has been said, Marraige is work it isn't always easy.
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