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Hard8s · 06-11-2004, 07:06 AM

Gondath,
First let me make an obvious observation. The world sucks. If it didn't we would all float away!

Now that the comedy portion is out of the way....Lets get back to that. The world sucks. Parents do not have a guide book. All they have is what they have experienced, what they have seen and what they want for their children. Sometimes it is a whole lot easier to say "because I said so," than to try an explain the reasoning behind a rule. It could be that they think the kid IS an idiot, or they don't trust them, or they have a completely irrational fear that you are going to get shot at a party, and if they told that to the child it would harm them, cause an arguement, etc. But you will find there are rules everywhere. When you go to work, you follow the bosses or companies rules. When you drive, you follow rules of the road. If you work for yourself you follow the customers rules, or you won't have any customers. In a lot of ways following your parents rules, wheter you agree with them or not, sets you up for the rest of life.

The only way to parent is to parent. At this point you have no idea what it means to be a parent. You think you do, but you have no idea. Just like you know what it means to be a pilot, you fly the plane around. But do you know how to fly the plane, what to look for, how much flap setting you need for what speed, what speed you need to be at to take off or land, etc. No! Someone teaches you. Well, there are no REAL parenting classes. No one to tell you which rules need a reason, which ones don't, which rules are just and which ones aren't. No one to tell you if what you do today is going make your kid a drug addict, or a doctor down the line. You do not know whether what you do is right or wrong until you do it. All you can do is your best. If what the parents do angers the kid, well it kind of sets them up for the real world, it sucks! The parents are doing what they feel is best for the child. I know I am, and that my parents did.

So try not to put down parenting until you have tried it. You won't be forced into it, as long as follow the rules: use birth control, or practice abstinence, otherwise you may end being a parent.

06-11-2004, 07:06 AM	#30 (permalink)
Hard8s Addict Location: Wherever I am!	Gondath, First let me make an obvious observation. The world sucks. If it didn't we would all float away! Now that the comedy portion is out of the way....Lets get back to that. The world sucks. Parents do not have a guide book. All they have is what they have experienced, what they have seen and what they want for their children. Sometimes it is a whole lot easier to say "because I said so," than to try an explain the reasoning behind a rule. It could be that they think the kid IS an idiot, or they don't trust them, or they have a completely irrational fear that you are going to get shot at a party, and if they told that to the child it would harm them, cause an arguement, etc. But you will find there are rules everywhere. When you go to work, you follow the bosses or companies rules. When you drive, you follow rules of the road. If you work for yourself you follow the customers rules, or you won't have any customers. In a lot of ways following your parents rules, wheter you agree with them or not, sets you up for the rest of life. The only way to parent is to parent. At this point you have no idea what it means to be a parent. You think you do, but you have no idea. Just like you know what it means to be a pilot, you fly the plane around. But do you know how to fly the plane, what to look for, how much flap setting you need for what speed, what speed you need to be at to take off or land, etc. No! Someone teaches you. Well, there are no REAL parenting classes. No one to tell you which rules need a reason, which ones don't, which rules are just and which ones aren't. No one to tell you if what you do today is going make your kid a drug addict, or a doctor down the line. You do not know whether what you do is right or wrong until you do it. All you can do is your best. If what the parents do angers the kid, well it kind of sets them up for the real world, it sucks! The parents are doing what they feel is best for the child. I know I am, and that my parents did. So try not to put down parenting until you have tried it. You won't be forced into it, as long as follow the rules: use birth control, or practice abstinence, otherwise you may end being a parent. __________________ If ignorance is bliss, then wipe this smile off my face! Last edited by Hard8s; 06-11-2004 at 07:13 AM..