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Mehoni · 06-08-2004, 10:01 PM

My reason for no to spanking is this:

I was spanked/hit as a child. ( Yes, it's illegal here, but who the hell listens to a kid? )

Spanked at home, bullied at school made me feel that I had no one to go to, no one to talk to, nowhere to go.

When I was 14 I tried to hang myself because I couldn't take it anymore. It didn't work, so I decided to just get the hell away from them asap. Moved out at 16 and now I haven't seen them since I was 17 (I'm 23 now). I have no desire to do so either. As far as I'm concerned I have no family.

( IMO, a family is those who love you, those who care about you. Not those who hurt you and make you feel unloved. )

The only thing being spanked taught me was that it's easier to use violence than to talk/try to understand what went wrong. Unless the child is clear on what he/she/it did wrong, he/she/it will think that hitting someone is okay.

Children emulate their parents. I've noticed that my first instinct when getting frustrated/angry at someone is to hit them. I don't like that part of me.

06-08-2004, 10:01 PM	#33 (permalink)
Mehoni Insane Location: Within the Woods	My reason for no to spanking is this: I was spanked/hit as a child. ( Yes, it's illegal here, but who the hell listens to a kid? ) Spanked at home, bullied at school made me feel that I had no one to go to, no one to talk to, nowhere to go. When I was 14 I tried to hang myself because I couldn't take it anymore. It didn't work, so I decided to just get the hell away from them asap. Moved out at 16 and now I haven't seen them since I was 17 (I'm 23 now). I have no desire to do so either. As far as I'm concerned I have no family. ( IMO, a family is those who love you, those who care about you. Not those who hurt you and make you feel unloved. ) The only thing being spanked taught me was that it's easier to use violence than to talk/try to understand what went wrong. Unless the child is clear on what he/she/it did wrong, he/she/it will think that hitting someone is okay. Children emulate their parents. I've noticed that my first instinct when getting frustrated/angry at someone is to hit them. I don't like that part of me. __________________ There seem to be countless rituals and cultural beliefs designed to alleviate their fear of a simple biological truth - all organisms eventually perish.