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I know this isn't said so often but I think getting back with her, and deciding that from now on I'm in control, was one of the best decisions of my life. That's what I think.
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Using webcams like this is certainly a controlled situation. There is an exoticism to this that really highlights the hyperreal world we're in now. I understand that it is easy to get very excited about this kind of situation, we seem hardwired for this propensity to display ourselves and to be objects of consumption. You seem very excited about this, but I warn you to be cautious because this simulated atmosphere does not necessarily directly transfer into a workable reality. If it is used as a tool in conjunction with face-to-face interactions, with respect, dignity, and without emphasizing differences in power or objectification then I can see some positive possibilities.
I'm afraid that often in these situations that humanity gets lost, that power has a central role in the excitement, and both the surveyor and the surveyed are objectified.
Let us know how this works out, how it enhances other parts of your relationship, and if later on you still feel that it was a good idea to get back together with your ex-girlfriend.