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Originally posted by lurkette
Yeah, but they're probably a lot happier! 
Both sets of distortions - the negative ones and these positive ones - are disconnected from reality, which is why they are a problem. Though I can't say I've ever met someone who suffered on a regular basis from the positive distortions. If I did, they'd probably seem pathologically egomaniacal, whereas the negative distortions seem to be so widespread that I think they're built in to the human design (the "spaceship brain" ART mentioned).
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it's those very reasons why I try very hard to disassociate emotions and feelings from situations and thoughts. It's very challenging to do so. I can't say that I'm 100% successful, but I am more successful than most people.
Once I am able to distinguish the situation as being one that is thought/emotion tied, I let the emotion ride out and unfold as it needs to do so. And then allow the thought to continue.
It's sometimes hard to recover from some of them, but allowing that to happen allows me to do somethings that others will not, like firing people or providing bad news.
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