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I was spanked. I have "swatted" my daughter's butt. I don't think I'll carry the spanking as far as my parents did. Mom tried to spank me when I was 18. I was pissed about that. When they are toddlers and unable to communicate or understand things well, a swat on the butt when they are doing something dangerous usually does the trick. I try to reserve the spankings for time when she's doing something dangerous to herself or another being. Like when she was 3 and wrapped a string around the cat's neck, I told her to stop, and she pulled. I spanked her. It was dangerous. When she was 2 and she used to run out into the road even when I told her to stop, I spanked her. If its something that could cause harm to her or someone else I can't wait for her to understand the danger. I need her to obey for her own safety and I need her to obey now. In my opinion a spanking for safety's sake is totally fine. I try NEVER to spank when I'm angry. And I always like to talk to her afterwards and explain what she did that was wrong. As long as she connects the spanking to what she did and knows it wasn't about her personally I think she'll be fine. Do it right, with reservation, and love and concern for your child and they should be fine.
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