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I guess it's symantecs but we've never "spanked' our kids (now 9 and 11), however, we have delivered many a swat to the butt to get the kids attention. Spanking, to me, means swatting repeatedly AS the punishment which makes ME responsible for their suffering. They are the ones responsible for their actions and we wanted them to learn that lesson. Plus, I just never wanted to be feared, physically, by my kids.
The "swat" indicated to them that they'd pushed it as far as they could, and then they were disciplined in some other way. I hate to say it, because it is so cliche, but for my kids (when they were preschool) timeouts worked. This was combined with them disciplining themselves by their choosing what toy/stuffed animal/book/video they were going to give up .... of course we had to agree so they had to give up something difficult.
I can't think of the last time I had to swat, but the discpling has remained pretty much the same ..... and many times they are tougher in their punishment than I would impose.
Good luck.
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