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The day after my (now ex) girlfriend had a big fight over some miscommunication issues she sent out an e-mail to everybody with one of those 'humorous' lists of "What women say and what they really mean." You know the type:
She says: "It's fine."
She means: "If you do it, you're in big trouble."
She says: "You should communicate more."
She means: "You MUST agree with me on everything."
Anyway, this came straight after a big fight where I was pleading with her to not pull that crap, and to say what she means and mean what she says. Not to make me read between the lines and divine what she means. (This was sent out to all of our friends, with my address in the Send To field written a couple of times, so she didn't make it subtle.)
But the point of all this is to repeat one thing that I said and most people agree on, that is, that PMS isn't a ticket to do what she wants. It certainly requires a little more patience from the husband/boyfriend, that's a given, but does not "alleviate personal responsability" as <b>toxic515</b> says.
Secondly, because there is some 'humorous' list out there circling people's inboxes that says what women say means the opposite... it just doesn't cut it. I cannot stand it when women use the inherent differences between males and females to justify bad behavior.
Sorry for that rant.
I think you should still comfort your wife right now. Wrong or not, I bet she feels like shit over the incident, and about the PMS, so you should definately still be there for her. Don't let yourself get stepped on though. When she starts feeling better, that's the time to lay down the rules.
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