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raeanna74 · 05-27-2004, 06:19 PM

I lived at my parents until I was 24 (Except during the school year when I was at college - which by the way they didn't pay for - my grandparents had built a fund that paid for 2/3rs of it I paid the rest) . When I was 16 I started working. Full time during the summer. I started then helping out with groceries and I never quit helping with chores until I moved out. I still go over and help my mom out with basic stuff like dishes and laundry sometimes when she's been overwhelmed with stuff to do. It's just showing your parents respect and thanks for what they've done for you. It's being a responsible adult.

I have problems with some things with my parents but I still respect them and their house rules when I'm there. I see no need to expect a summer off like you may be used to. If you want no curfew because you're 18 then you need to act like you are 18, an adult, and do the work. When I wasn't attending college at 19 and I was living at home I was working 3 part time jobs because I'd had trouble finding a full time job. I saved what I could and put about $100 or so a month toward our family expenses. It's part of being in a family. Don't want the responsibility? Move out.

Then as to the curfew. What's the big deal. That's not a bad curfew. If you have to be to work the next morning, ON TIME, you need your rest to be your best. Midnight is not unreasonable. As for later in the week when you aren't working or during the weekend - your parents have responsibilities. They don't need some kid tromping through the house at any hours of the night and waking them up. They need their sleep. Besides as you get older you tend to treasure your sleep - don't screw with their sleep just because you don't value your's yet.

Once I turned 18 I started helping out with expenses for the house. I paid the property taxes completely one year. I helped with utilities and groceries regularly the rest of the time. I valued what they gave me. A place to live that wasn't expensive.

05-27-2004, 06:19 PM	#22 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I lived at my parents until I was 24 (Except during the school year when I was at college - which by the way they didn't pay for - my grandparents had built a fund that paid for 2/3rs of it I paid the rest) . When I was 16 I started working. Full time during the summer. I started then helping out with groceries and I never quit helping with chores until I moved out. I still go over and help my mom out with basic stuff like dishes and laundry sometimes when she's been overwhelmed with stuff to do. It's just showing your parents respect and thanks for what they've done for you. It's being a responsible adult. I have problems with some things with my parents but I still respect them and their house rules when I'm there. I see no need to expect a summer off like you may be used to. If you want no curfew because you're 18 then you need to act like you are 18, an adult, and do the work. When I wasn't attending college at 19 and I was living at home I was working 3 part time jobs because I'd had trouble finding a full time job. I saved what I could and put about $100 or so a month toward our family expenses. It's part of being in a family. Don't want the responsibility? Move out. Then as to the curfew. What's the big deal. That's not a bad curfew. If you have to be to work the next morning, ON TIME, you need your rest to be your best. Midnight is not unreasonable. As for later in the week when you aren't working or during the weekend - your parents have responsibilities. They don't need some kid tromping through the house at any hours of the night and waking them up. They need their sleep. Besides as you get older you tend to treasure your sleep - don't screw with their sleep just because you don't value your's yet. Once I turned 18 I started helping out with expenses for the house. I paid the property taxes completely one year. I helped with utilities and groceries regularly the rest of the time. I valued what they gave me. A place to live that wasn't expensive. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.