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dirtyrascal7 · 05-25-2004, 11:34 AM

i am utterly amazed at how many people are saying to simply run away from the situation completely.

obviously there are some things that need to be further discussed and worked out, but to just call it quits at the first sign of potential drama or complications... that's silly. just because they enjoy spending time together and have a good connection doesn't mean something bad is automatically going to happen.

anyway celeano, you barely seemed interested in this guy's friend... while he seems interested in you. you'll have to resolve this asap... the longer you wait, the harder it will be and the nastier it could get. just talk with him and tell him you're not interested in anything more than friends. don't tell him you're interested in his friend, just that you two hung out and stuff like that. this is a delicate problem and you'll need to give him time to get over you before you get involved with his friend... otherwise he'll get very jealous and then, BAM!, drama...

as for the girlfriend situation, you'll obviously have to resolve that as well before getting any closer with this guy. keep talking to him and do some recon... find out how serious they are and what future he sees with her. if he expresses that he is happy with what he has with his current g/f, then you will have to respect that and stay in 'friend mode'. it's ultimately his responsibility to not fuck up by cheating on his g/f, but since he told you about her, it's your responsibility to respect the fact that he's taken.

also, you'll have to feel him out and see just how honest he's being... b/c he might just be downplaying the whole thing so he can get some action from you while he's away from her. people get lonely in long-distance relationships, but that doesnt mean they want to end the relationship and be with someone else (example: casablanca)... so just be aware of that. the more details you can get out of him, the better... if he's vague or gives you short answers when you talk to him about his girlfriend, that's not a good sign... be careful.

05-25-2004, 11:34 AM	#18 (permalink)
dirtyrascal7 That's what she said	i am utterly amazed at how many people are saying to simply run away from the situation completely. obviously there are some things that need to be further discussed and worked out, but to just call it quits at the first sign of potential drama or complications... that's silly. just because they enjoy spending time together and have a good connection doesn't mean something bad is automatically going to happen. anyway celeano, you barely seemed interested in this guy's friend... while he seems interested in you. you'll have to resolve this asap... the longer you wait, the harder it will be and the nastier it could get. just talk with him and tell him you're not interested in anything more than friends. don't tell him you're interested in his friend, just that you two hung out and stuff like that. this is a delicate problem and you'll need to give him time to get over you before you get involved with his friend... otherwise he'll get very jealous and then, BAM!, drama... as for the girlfriend situation, you'll obviously have to resolve that as well before getting any closer with this guy. keep talking to him and do some recon... find out how serious they are and what future he sees with her. if he expresses that he is happy with what he has with his current g/f, then you will have to respect that and stay in 'friend mode'. it's ultimately his responsibility to not fuck up by cheating on his g/f, but since he told you about her, it's your responsibility to respect the fact that he's taken. also, you'll have to feel him out and see just how honest he's being... b/c he might just be downplaying the whole thing so he can get some action from you while he's away from her. people get lonely in long-distance relationships, but that doesnt mean they want to end the relationship and be with someone else (example: casablanca)... so just be aware of that. the more details you can get out of him, the better... if he's vague or gives you short answers when you talk to him about his girlfriend, that's not a good sign... be careful. __________________ "Tie yourself to your limitless potential, rather than your limiting past." "Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him."