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SecretMethod70 · 05-24-2004, 09:45 PM

Sorry, but so far the advice given in this thread is shit. I couldn't tell you what is good advice, cause I've never even been remotely in a situation like that, but I'm certainly sure that the advice so far sucks. (sorry guys, no hard feelings, I just REALLY don't agree with you)

Most advice was given, as far as I can tell, without reading that she is/was abusive, but the money situation is bad enough.

There is a difference between someone being "thrifty" with their money and someone not taking basic care of their family and other everyday things for the sake of saving up for something that is not a necessity.

"She's an adult" - big fucking deal. Is she legally obligated to care for her daughter? No. Does it make her a bad parent though? Absolutely. Bad person? Sorry, la petite moi, but yes. Not at least CONTRIBUTING to your child getting new clothes since 7th grade, doing illegal things with coupons, etc to save money for weed, and being excessive about saving every last ounce of money possible is obviously an effect of 1) her being a bad person in general and 2) possibly of an addiction. Clearly, if she needs to cheat on coupons, cares about extra minutes of electricity, and doesn't like the dishwasher being used, they obviously don't make enough money to be blowing away on $300 of weed. That's bullshit. If that's not an effect on her life and relations with other people, I don't know what is.

So, yes, you SHOULD care about this. What to do about it, I wish I could tell you. But don't let anyone tell you that it's none of your business. Your mom's a shitty person and it's having an effect on your life, and that gives you every right to be concerned.

/sixate imitation

05-24-2004, 09:45 PM	#13 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	Sorry, but so far the advice given in this thread is shit. I couldn't tell you what is good advice, cause I've never even been remotely in a situation like that, but I'm certainly sure that the advice so far sucks. (sorry guys, no hard feelings, I just REALLY don't agree with you) Most advice was given, as far as I can tell, without reading that she is/was abusive, but the money situation is bad enough. There is a difference between someone being "thrifty" with their money and someone not taking basic care of their family and other everyday things for the sake of saving up for something that is not a necessity. "She's an adult" - big fucking deal. Is she legally obligated to care for her daughter? No. Does it make her a bad parent though? Absolutely. Bad person? Sorry, la petite moi, but yes. Not at least CONTRIBUTING to your child getting new clothes since 7th grade, doing illegal things with coupons, etc to save money for weed, and being excessive about saving every last ounce of money possible is obviously an effect of 1) her being a bad person in general and 2) possibly of an addiction. Clearly, if she needs to cheat on coupons, cares about extra minutes of electricity, and doesn't like the dishwasher being used, they obviously don't make enough money to be blowing away on $300 of weed. That's bullshit. If that's not an effect on her life and relations with other people, I don't know what is. So, yes, you SHOULD care about this. What to do about it, I wish I could tell you. But don't let anyone tell you that it's none of your business. Your mom's a shitty person and it's having an effect on your life, and that gives you every right to be concerned. /sixate imitation __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling Last edited by SecretMethod70; 05-24-2004 at 10:12 PM..