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sexymama · 05-21-2004, 08:04 PM

When my son was just a few weeks old and it was time for me to head at the door for school and he needed my attention, I was freaking out because the bed wasn't made. At that time I took a deep breath and let go. I realized that time with him was much more important then the bed being made.

Here is one of my favorite emails:

"Dusting - 'A house become a home when you can write 'I love you' on the furniture.'

I can't tell you how many countless hours that I have spent CLEANING! I used to spend at least 8 hours every weekend making sure things were just perfect - 'in case someone came over.' Then I realized one day that no one came over; they were all out living life and having fun! Now, when people visit, I find no need to explain the 'condition' of my home. They are more interested in hearing about the things I've been doing while I was away living life and having fun. I f you haven't figured this out yet, please heed this advice.

Life is short, enjoy it!

Dust if you must, but wouldn't it be better to paint a picture or write a letter, bake a cake or plant a seed, ponder the difference between want and need?
Dust if you must, but there's not much time, with rivers to swim and mountains to climb, music to hear and books to read, friends to cherish and life to lead.
Dust if you must, but the world's out there with the sun in your eyes, the wind in your hair, a flutter of snow, a shower of rain. this day will not come around again.
Dust if you must, but bear in mind, old age will come and it's not kind. And when you go -- and go you must -- you, yourself will make more dust!"

Yes, my house stays very clean. (I've never been able to completely let go.) But I've learned a lot about loosening up. My children and my love come first. They help with the chores and I no longer obsess over it being done perfectly. The bed often goes unmade -- but (hopefully) my children never go unloved.

05-21-2004, 08:04 PM	#3 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	When my son was just a few weeks old and it was time for me to head at the door for school and he needed my attention, I was freaking out because the bed wasn't made. At that time I took a deep breath and let go. I realized that time with him was much more important then the bed being made. Here is one of my favorite emails: "Dusting - 'A house become a home when you can write 'I love you' on the furniture.' I can't tell you how many countless hours that I have spent CLEANING! I used to spend at least 8 hours every weekend making sure things were just perfect - 'in case someone came over.' Then I realized one day that no one came over; they were all out living life and having fun! Now, when people visit, I find no need to explain the 'condition' of my home. They are more interested in hearing about the things I've been doing while I was away living life and having fun. I f you haven't figured this out yet, please heed this advice. Life is short, enjoy it! Dust if you must, but wouldn't it be better to paint a picture or write a letter, bake a cake or plant a seed, ponder the difference between want and need? Dust if you must, but there's not much time, with rivers to swim and mountains to climb, music to hear and books to read, friends to cherish and life to lead. Dust if you must, but the world's out there with the sun in your eyes, the wind in your hair, a flutter of snow, a shower of rain. this day will not come around again. Dust if you must, but bear in mind, old age will come and it's not kind. And when you go -- and go you must -- you, yourself will make more dust!" Yes, my house stays very clean. (I've never been able to completely let go.) But I've learned a lot about loosening up. My children and my love come first. They help with the chores and I no longer obsess over it being done perfectly. The bed often goes unmade -- but (hopefully) my children never go unloved. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection. Last edited by sexymama; 05-21-2004 at 08:07 PM..