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Originally posted by Peetster
You're lucky. 
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Don't I know it!
Tecoyah, you make an interesting point about expectations. I think one of the primary cognitive mistakes I make is assuming that there is some "aha!" moment waiting for me out there, some state of perfection that once I achieve it, I'll be able to feel good about who I am. I have a friend who tells me the only true perfection is to love yourself exactly as you are. I imagine what I need is not a change in circumstances, but a change in mindset, which is more difficult to achieve, and which I resist for some reason.
Cyn - I haven't read 7 habits (but I will check it out, and the other book you recommended to me, as well) but when I think about my values, here's what I come up with (they're not all really "values" per se, as much as things that I'm committed to):
- compassion
- respect for the environment (I guess you could broaden that out and say respect for life)
- creativity
- order (conflicts somewhat with the creativity, but not really)
- self-knowledge
- thinking about long-term consequences
- seeing short-term results (not really a value, but something I find satisfying)
I think the first step is to strive to 'be' those things, and find an environment that supports them. Heck if I know what it is, though! If I were of a more religious bent, I'd almost want to be a hospital chaplain or something. Think there's a demand for new-age-neo-pagan-sorta-Buddhist chaplains who write and do stained glass on the side?