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Originally posted by WarWagon
I received a lot of those negative comments from my parents, and I still do. Never any positive praise, always a "why only an A and not an A+?" All of this snowballs, and I have developed quite the distaste towards my parents for all the little things they've done and said. Perhaps your sister is in a very similar boat, but just not handling things as well you or other members of the family.
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Read: Every asian Family.
Basically they make you feel as though if you're not at the number one position in class - you haven't done good enough. I see where you're going with that one though. It all depends on people's reactions. When people give me negative feedback, I take the challenge on personally to overachieve and show people what I'm capable of.
Even the little things. Once I'd asked a co-worker at a retail store if they think that I'd be allowed to play a piano in the middle of a mall. Getting the answer "No Way!" I proceeded to con my way onto the piano stage and started entertaining the crowd during my break... It's all in how people accept feedback.
I'm shy at heart, and would prefer to remain unnoticed - but sadly my reaction to challenge is to fight back and show that I am "worthy" to exist I guess... I just feel that I have to prove that my existence is worthwhile to myself and others that put me to the test. Had I not received any feedback at all, I'd be sitting around not doing a whole lot.
Perhaps you just have to find out what motivates her, and push her down that road.