WarWagon

Agreed. You're sister is going to need to learn what it means to become an adult. Unfortunately for her and the rest of you, its going to come crushing down on her all at once.

Out of curiosity, just how overprotective or controlling were your parents as you and your sister were growing up? This sounds like a definite case of backlash. The younger of my two sisters became pregnant in her teens and her early twenties, and was also a heavy drinker and partier, very much a case of rebelling. I too "rebel" against my parents, but take a much more passive attitude towards them, and am smart enough and independent enough to take not necessarily a better, but at least different approach.

The situations between my family and yours sound somewhat comparable, and my parents were veeery controlling as I was growing up, and they still try to be. Granted I got away with a bit more being the "baby" of the family, but much of this was in part an act on my parents behalf by trying to control me through financial obligation. If I could get the money issue behind me, I wouldn't be surprised if I severed all ties with most members of my family.


BTW, best of luck to your mother and the rest of the family on her surgery. A member of my family has just undergone her 3rd surgery for Thyroid cancer, as well as gastric bypass surgery, so I know how tough it can be. Just hang in there.