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tritium · 05-14-2004, 09:19 PM

I just needed to share this as I'm having a fair amount of trouble knowing that someone near to me has both intentionally and unintentionally hurt my mother, whom I hold dear. I am simultaneously compelled to action in order to protect my mother, but also to help my sister. While I hate my sister tonight for what she's done to herself and my mother through deceit, I spent the evening discussing the issue with my father, half-justifying my sister's shortcomings and explaining away the actions the caused my mother emotional pain. I'm a little torn, and I think I'll just feel better telling my version of the story...

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I had to play referee in my house earlier tonight too. Apparently my sister has flunked out of college, after lying all semester long to my mother about her grades. She'd done very poorly last semester, but had actually managed to pass 2 classes. This semester, however, she failed them all and has subsequently been expelled from James Madison University (JMU).

When her report card arrived this afternoon, my sister initially tried to pick a fight with me over "hiding her report card" (it had been laying on the countertop all day). Can you believe that? She was trying to skirt the issue of her poor grades (she must have known ahead of time) by trying to get me in trouble with our parents!

Upon opening the report, she started emphatically lying about how "these grades couldn't possibly be correct. I had B's..." and was allowing my mother to get angry with JMU. My sister would have continued to allow my mother to twist in the wind had I not intervened and called my sister's bluff. The house of cards crumbled... I then left the immediate area.

When I returned 10minutes later, my mother was in tears while my sister spoke on her cellphone and lightly chatted with friends. My mother was actually physically sick with fear and worry for my sister. Sorry to say it, but I've lost about all of the last remaining shreds of respect I had for my sister.

She lied last semester too about being caught drinking in her room, the tatoo and the tongue stud (and the boys from Pennsylvania, Tennessee and New Jersey). My father actually had to drive overnight from Tennessee to Roanoke, VA (6hrs, one way) one night last Fall to rescue my sister who'd taken a Grayhound bus to another college campus and gotten stranded (after being forbidden to go). All that driving before a business trip the following morning to Kansas.

Its not that my sister has thrown away the entire last year of her life and a vast sum of money (no scholarships either), its that she purposely withheld information and purposely lied to my mother. I've never seen my mother sob so hard.

In my 23 years, I've never met a more inconsiderate and hurtful person in my life... I'm amazed, yet horrified, at the terrible, hurtful things the girl sleeping in this house has done to my parents.

Forgot to mention that my mother goes in for critical surgery in 10days... kinda worried about that too.

05-14-2004, 09:19 PM	#1 (permalink)
tritium Professor of Drinkology	My sister... I don't know what to say. I just needed to share this as I'm having a fair amount of trouble knowing that someone near to me has both intentionally and unintentionally hurt my mother, whom I hold dear. I am simultaneously compelled to action in order to protect my mother, but also to help my sister. While I hate my sister tonight for what she's done to herself and my mother through deceit, I spent the evening discussing the issue with my father, half-justifying my sister's shortcomings and explaining away the actions the caused my mother emotional pain. I'm a little torn, and I think I'll just feel better telling my version of the story... ------------------------------------ I had to play referee in my house earlier tonight too. Apparently my sister has flunked out of college, after lying all semester long to my mother about her grades. She'd done very poorly last semester, but had actually managed to pass 2 classes. This semester, however, she failed them all and has subsequently been expelled from James Madison University (JMU). When her report card arrived this afternoon, my sister initially tried to pick a fight with me over "hiding her report card" (it had been laying on the countertop all day). Can you believe that? She was trying to skirt the issue of her poor grades (she must have known ahead of time) by trying to get me in trouble with our parents! Upon opening the report, she started emphatically lying about how "these grades couldn't possibly be correct. I had B's..." and was allowing my mother to get angry with JMU. My sister would have continued to allow my mother to twist in the wind had I not intervened and called my sister's bluff. The house of cards crumbled... I then left the immediate area. When I returned 10minutes later, my mother was in tears while my sister spoke on her cellphone and lightly chatted with friends. My mother was actually physically sick with fear and worry for my sister. Sorry to say it, but I've lost about all of the last remaining shreds of respect I had for my sister. She lied last semester too about being caught drinking in her room, the tatoo and the tongue stud (and the boys from Pennsylvania, Tennessee and New Jersey). My father actually had to drive overnight from Tennessee to Roanoke, VA (6hrs, one way) one night last Fall to rescue my sister who'd taken a Grayhound bus to another college campus and gotten stranded (after being forbidden to go). All that driving before a business trip the following morning to Kansas. Its not that my sister has thrown away the entire last year of her life and a vast sum of money (no scholarships either), its that she purposely withheld information and purposely lied to my mother. I've never seen my mother sob so hard. In my 23 years, I've never met a more inconsiderate and hurtful person in my life... I'm amazed, yet horrified, at the terrible, hurtful things the girl sleeping in this house has done to my parents. Forgot to mention that my mother goes in for critical surgery in 10days... kinda worried about that too. __________________ Blah. Last edited by tritium; 02-13-2006 at 07:33 PM..