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I don't know what everyone else has to say on this topic, but I can tell you myself that I am in the most wonderful relationship of my life. I am completely and utterly in love with my boyfriend, but I have cheated on him in the past. Recently I was going through some really difficult times and I wanted to share with him what I'd done (not to ease my guilt, but because I didn't want his support through these times unless he truly knew who I was - I couldn't handle it).
We had a bit of a rough time after that, but have talked through it (a lot!) and he doesn't want to throw away what we have (and I broke out in tears and started hyperventilating every time I thought about life without him - that's how much I love him!)
So as it stands now, that is something that is completely behind us, an experience I have learned from and will never repeat, and we are happier than ever I would say. Amazingly enough, something like this really can make a bond between two people stronger. Not that I'm saying cheating is ok and people should do it if their relationship is rocky (to this day, I still don't have a reason for why I did what I did, it wasn't just about the sex, all I know is that every time I turned to this one guy, I was homesick for my boyfriend - we lived in different towns, now we live together - and I couldn't stop thinking about him. sounds crazy I know) because I still feel very strongly that cheating is wrong and there are never any excuses for it, but I can speak from experience and say that it doesn't always end in heartache.
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Don't go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail - George Eliot
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