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Does it really matter if something you haven't done yet may or may not be cheating?
I mean... that's not really the issue is here is it?
The issue is "Why are you asking?".
You're asking because you're thinking it could be cheating... because you're thinking about cheating and you know it.
You said yourself as plain as day that this girl was into you and dropping hints all over the place. She represents an opportunity for a different experience than what you've had with your girlfriend of four years and you're wondering about it.
That's fine. You're allowed to wonder.
However, you know that pursuing this girl is not part of the social agreement you have with your girlfriend. You know that she would not approove. So if you do pursue this new girl... it's cheating.
You can lie to yourself and pretend your motives are pure, and try to get off on a technicality, but you know what's what or you wouldn't be so conflicted about it. It's not part of the implied arrangement between you and your girlfriend and its cheating.
Now you have to ask yourself "Why have you been considering cheating?"
What in your relationship with your girlfriend are you dissatisfied with that you are willing to risk losing it pursue a random girl that you just met?
Are you looking for an easy out?
Obviously you're not just looking to get laid.
If you were just looking to get laid you probably could have slept with her that first night, left the next morning & never looked back.
Getting laid is not the issue here is it?
The issue is you are having problems in your relationship with your girlfriend and those problems are serious enough that you are considering cheating on her.
I guess you have to ask yourself what those problems are and whether they are something you want to fix or if you want to move on.
But it's not fair to this new girl to lead her on and it's not fair to your girlfriend to shop around behind her back. So sit down & figure your own crap out without takingthe chance of hurting other people in the process.
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