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There is a line of thought that says things happen for a reason. I believe in this to a point. Some things happen to us because we make them happen. Some things happen to us by fortuitous circumstances or "luck". Some things happen to us just because.
This is an example of the first and second. You can make it happen by getting off this "wait a certain amount of time to call attitude" and just doing it. If it doesn't work out, you probably weren't meant to be with her anyway. I spent years knocking my head against a wall trying to understand women and trying to play everything correctly. What it got me were 3 long-term girlfriends that I had begun to think of possible marriage with. One ended up cheating on me, one was just a psycho bitch who always ran back to me when her ego needed stroking and the third was unmedicated bipolar (which is its own separate hell). My wife (who I adore) just fell in my lap so to speak. It was so easy that I wondered where the relationship pain was.
There is a lot to be said for saying "What the fuck" and just doing it.
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