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Originally posted by ChrisJericho
All the asian females I know (3) are dating WHITE guys. I'm not saying this is bad, but it's just become SO cliche'. When I walk around campus here at the UW, for every asian-asian couple I see, I see about 6 asian female/white guy combinations. I just kind of feel sorry for the asian guys because they are getting shafted.
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well Will said most of it for me, but i just wanted to add and restate a few things.. what's so cliche about it? i don't see myself as a cliche at all. then again, i'm a little out of place from asian subculture because there isn't a minority group big enough around here for me to cling to. even if there was, i doubt i'd be there.
i think it's important to ask why it is always asian females you see with white males and not the other way around? why are asian males getting "shafted"? like i said, Will pretty much covered it for me but i think it's refreshing to get out of that weird mindset a lot of asian men have about relationships. when i visited the philippines a few months ago, i talked to a guy who went to HS in california for two years and he told me about how he dated a japanese, korean and two filipinos.. as if minor details like that somehow suggested variety? i thought he was just dating them for the sake of dating "japanese", "korean" and "filipino" and i didn't understand that at all. it's refreshing to date someone who doesn't care about that because a part of being caucasian is being a mix of different heritages anyway. it doesn't matter but i see it mattering to a lot of asian cultures. they would ask me why i hadn't "tried a filipino" yet.. again, the same mindset as the guy i was talking to.. except this was coming from a filipino girl that was newlywed! it just amazes me how you can culturally adopt this kind of mindset and it made me feel really alienated to my own culture/people. i just grew up thinking different i guess. even a filipino women who waitressed us at a thai restaurant once started going off on how she didn't like filipino men because they're such players! i thought it was funny. but very true.. there's less value there.
a teacher at least 10 years older than me was hitting on me in the philippines. i told him i had a boyfriend but he said it was ok because i wasn't married. just experiences like that boggle me.. and it really makes me sad.