Hmm ... "make her into what you want" seems a bit creepy, don't it? I guess on one level the female responds positively to the male who directs her, and allows her to be the most beautiful and desirable version of herself that ever could be. But on another level the female really ought to be appreciated for who she is, not who you imagine her to be capable of being, especially not when that imagination is mostly about something as non-character-oriented as skinnyness.
Of course, the LAZYNESS and the skinnyness maybe go hand in hand. And I'll bet you're more annoyed at the fact that she sits on her butt and whines, than at the fact that there's a roll around her tummy.
I think you should move to Europe, or a warmer climate where people (including her) have to wear more revealing clothing more often. The middle of the United States has too much middle in its middle.
I think this whole story just goes to show, long-term commitment seldom works, and usually the thing that drives us apart is something rather simple -- something that many of us would be so politically correct as to demand "should" have no bearing on the relationship at all. PC be damned. Go fuck a skinny chick and rub her nose in the fact ...
