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I think you are approaching a diffucult situation in a very good way.
Instead of cheating, you are staying out of those situations.
Instead of being sick of her for getting fat, you are sick of her for not doing anything about it.
You are being supportive, and reasonable.
I am in a situation like this, only I am the one that gained the weight. And I am working on it, slowly but surely. It is hard, remember, not only to admit that you are getting out of shape, but to really start doing something about it. And I don't expect my boyfriend to put up with it. He does, but I don't expect it of him. (I am greatful that he does).
You are doing nothing wrong. And if nothing changes, then I would not blame you for leaving if you honestly felt that there could be no sexual attraction.
But, I also agree with the other posters when they say that instead of giving her only moral support, give her other support, too. Join a gym with her. Make her feel comfortable in a new situation like that. Eat healthy with her so it isn't so hard for her. Crack the whip- that is what I need some days- and I know, as will she, that in the long run, it is out of love and for the best.
I wish her the best in losing the weight- lord knows it is hard!- and I wish you the best too!
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