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Most of the angles have been covered here by everyone involved. I wanted to reiterate that it really seems that the major problem here is lack of discipline at home. Fear of getting your ass kicked - whether by a parent or brother - has kept many a bully in check.
My nephew had anger problems similar to these when he was younger. He had no discipline at home and his parents "wanted him to be free to choose his own path" but they failed to grasp that kids need parents for a reason. They need to be shown the right way and the wrong way.
My wife and I kept the kid for a weekend at our house and when he screwed up, I punished him. When he rebelled at the 'time out' , I spanked him with a paddle. When he lashed out at me for spanking him, I grabbed him and informed him that if he stepped out of line one more time, I would show him what a REAL spanking was (and I didn't elaborate). He pouted for a while and then realized that he was stuck. He BEHAVED, the rest of the time he was there AND on every subsequent visit.
To my knowledge, I am the only one who ever physically disciplined this child when he was young, and guess who his favorite uncle is?? His favorite uncle is the only one who showed him that they cared enough about him to whip his ass when he screwed up.
I realize that it is a pretty screwed up concept but it isn't the 'ass kicking' that gets through to them, it is the fact that you care enough about them to try and help 'fix' them. Or maybe it is that they got your attention and you responded. Either way, doing nothing is just fueling the fire.
And DO NOT teach him martial arts!! He doesn't need help in learning how to be a better fighter. Martial Arts discipline only sticks if the student is receptive to it.
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