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Originally posted by final_identity
Anyway, by letting it BE and acknowledging its right to occupy my mental space, the anger becomes an entity that can feed off itself all the more. Instead, I needed to very gently, almost flippantly and rather silly-like, comically, nip it in the bud. Treat it like it hadn't started yet. Get dismissive about it. Allow it to fizzle out withOUT much energy involved in it.
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Back atcha, final_identity. I really like this approach.
It starts with
knowing you've got an anger thing, that anger is your first response to... well, most everything. And if you can watch yourself pull out anger as a response to something, you stand a chance of interrupting it. You can say to yourself, "Oh, look. There goes my anger thing!"
At that point, it's not
you anymore, it's
it. And you can laugh at an
it in a way that you probably can't laugh at yourself.
I know for myself, when I lose my sense of humor it's time to look hard at where I've given my identity over to some automatic cognitive or emotional mechanism like this.