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Originally posted by ratbastid
When you get that they've HEARD it, you'll find it's largely disappeared for you.
Most suppressed anger (and other feelings) stays suppressed because it never gets properly heard by ourselves or anyone else. Just having it heard takes 99% of the charge out of it.
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Very wise statement ... the "having heard it" / "that they heard it" really rings chimes for me. Often I felt I had to say it over and over (no matter what "it" was) until someone had the good sense to say, "I get it." Then it was, like, poof, defused. You get in this cycle of wanting to do what you're doing, and then the act of doing it exacerbating your need to do more of it, and then the exacerbation making you ... etc. But "OK, I see" sort of cuts the recursion. Snip.