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Originally posted by SixEdxMia
Fuck teaching him marital arts,along with teaching control.. they will teach him to hurt others at a higher level.He already can't control himself,and he's proven harmful.
(from your post he intended to hurt her more than he did)
Bubba sounds like a Prick,and boys like him grow up to be wife beaters.
(most the boys I knew here in illinois who acted that way did)
Its a lack of respect tought early and it may never fade.
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SixEdxMia, You seem to know a lot of guys that you've been around for a while and never had an effect on. But you still don't seem to be able to explain how they didnt learn respect or where they went wrong or how you think they could have turned out differently.
You definately need to talk to him, listen to him, tell him to 'wake up'
I actually think its partly biological/physiological. Like when you said youre older brother was the same way but as he got older changed. I think its a growth mechanism but can be enflamed by bad childhood circumstances (family or bullies), its survival/adaptation.
It's not a bad thing.
He definately has no one to look up to or respect; want to learn from. It's not really necessary to beat on him (I would expect a older brother to do this but also look after him, but its kinda late in the game for that)
If he did have someone to look up to around him, he would never betray what he is expected of, it's just how a bond like that works, but we all arent so lucky to have someone like this
A mother can also have this power, by taking care of him and providing him with instruction, and when he does something bad, stop doing those little things for him, he'll notice, and in the worst of instances say you are disappointed in him, nothing hurts worst
The best thing you can give a struggling young boy are approval and advice.
I also think a martial arts school would be really good for him. It's the enviroment of being able to accomplish something, but really he needs to get some of that energy spent, its the same for anyone, youre really mad or sad about something, you could scream or cry, but running for example makes you feel so much better. But the enviroment of a MA school, would give him instruction, peers to be friends with, and something to work towards, have a sense of accomplishment and direction and worth
If hes so far off then military school is not a bad thing, but that doesnt relieve you of the responsibility of raising him, being there for him, and telling him whats most important in life, because those military schools don't do any of that. Some only want people who already are or expect you to be mentally healthy. When your boy comes back from remedial school, there's a heavy burden on you, he's not fine just because he acts differently now.