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TheBrit · 04-27-2004, 03:41 PM

Bah, I'll tell my story
I had a violence problem, up until I was about 15. I was bullied a lot when I was about 8-10. The reason it stopped at 10 is because I turned round and hit one of the bullies, broke his nose, black eye, blood, the works. The Headmaster phoned my dad and said "Well, Mr.x, I don't think your son is going to be bullied any more..."
I'm fairly sure I never bullied anyone, but I got in many more fights before I left that school aged 11 (when you leave that system in the UK). One of them ended up with my breaking a metacarpal hitting somebody (the 4th right. I couldn't punch...)
Then at secondary school I got in a few fights. Normally with older boys who tried to push me out of a queue or something, and I had this temper problem that made me fight back. About a 50% success rate on those.
Well, now, at the same school but much older I have calmed down. The last serious fight I got into was with somebody on the train who pulled a knife on me and my girlfriend, I knocked him out, chucked him onto the platform at the next stop. Funny thing is there were about 10 other people on the carriage, all ignored it. I remember when I was 13, a friend tapped me on the back of a head with a bottle. It was an old style lucozade one, half glass and half plastic. I heard it crack as it hit my head, turned round and whacked him. Then I realised who it was. Same guy I got into a fight with when I was about 14, over a stupid arguement. I whacked my best friend at the time, although I wouldn't do it again I do think what he did to me was way out of line.
I guess I'm rambling. My point is that I was a violent idiot up to about 4 years ago. In an instant I grew out of it. I have this preconception for being "hard" now, so I don't get into fights at all any more. I think what made me turn was realising what I was doing and that there were better ways to solve my problems.
If you can teach him that he can resolve his issues without fighting, you will make some serious headway. If fighting is working for him now (and it worked for me when I was 10), he will just keep on doing it.
Just in case you are wondering, my parents rarely knew about the fights (apart from when they had to take me to get x-rayed), but my dad always supported me in my fight against the boys who were bullying me. My granddad was the one who showed me to box (ex army-lightweight boxer) and I'm thankful for that. So yeah, no violence in my family at all. I was just an idiot.
My God, I rambled!

04-27-2004, 03:41 PM	#33 (permalink)
TheBrit Psycho	Bah, I'll tell my story I had a violence problem, up until I was about 15. I was bullied a lot when I was about 8-10. The reason it stopped at 10 is because I turned round and hit one of the bullies, broke his nose, black eye, blood, the works. The Headmaster phoned my dad and said "Well, Mr.x, I don't think your son is going to be bullied any more..." I'm fairly sure I never bullied anyone, but I got in many more fights before I left that school aged 11 (when you leave that system in the UK). One of them ended up with my breaking a metacarpal hitting somebody (the 4th right. I couldn't punch...) Then at secondary school I got in a few fights. Normally with older boys who tried to push me out of a queue or something, and I had this temper problem that made me fight back. About a 50% success rate on those. Well, now, at the same school but much older I have calmed down. The last serious fight I got into was with somebody on the train who pulled a knife on me and my girlfriend, I knocked him out, chucked him onto the platform at the next stop. Funny thing is there were about 10 other people on the carriage, all ignored it. I remember when I was 13, a friend tapped me on the back of a head with a bottle. It was an old style lucozade one, half glass and half plastic. I heard it crack as it hit my head, turned round and whacked him. Then I realised who it was. Same guy I got into a fight with when I was about 14, over a stupid arguement. I whacked my best friend at the time, although I wouldn't do it again I do think what he did to me was way out of line. I guess I'm rambling. My point is that I was a violent idiot up to about 4 years ago. In an instant I grew out of it. I have this preconception for being "hard" now, so I don't get into fights at all any more. I think what made me turn was realising what I was doing and that there were better ways to solve my problems. If you can teach him that he can resolve his issues without fighting, you will make some serious headway. If fighting is working for him now (and it worked for me when I was 10), he will just keep on doing it. Just in case you are wondering, my parents rarely knew about the fights (apart from when they had to take me to get x-rayed), but my dad always supported me in my fight against the boys who were bullying me. My granddad was the one who showed me to box (ex army-lightweight boxer) and I'm thankful for that. So yeah, no violence in my family at all. I was just an idiot. My God, I rambled!