View Single Post
Old 04-27-2004, 02:16 PM   #19 (permalink)
skier
Rawr!
 
skier's Avatar
 
Location: Edmontania
Quote:
Originally posted by Seaver
Ok, you guys need to open your eyes.

A girl asking you out is just an extention of what every single girl does. When you approach a girl she already has you tagged. From the first approach she tags you as interested or not. They all give hundreds of extreamly subtle hints that if you dont know to look for you're just walking blind into traffic.
these "hints" are usually not given off consciously. They are merely responses to your actions. If your actions are of a confident, exciting guy (think Brad Pitt in fight club) she'll throw you some eye contact. When you come up to her, and start talking, she will either realize that you're funny, interesting, and exciting and so open right up to you, or think you are too good to be true, and start giving you little tests to gauge your response to see if you really are different from other guys.

Quote:
Girls DO ask guys out, but nonverbally. (Body Language stuff here)
all this bodylanguage stuff is just an indicator of how well you're hitting it off. Don't be turned off if she crosses her arms, or turns away from you, or doesn't have her palms up when using arm gestures. Collectively they send a message, but some of them are just movements, and if she is laughing and having fun don't worry about her body language, unless everything shows she wants to get away.
And if she is into you, start holding her hand(s), her side, and escalate it. Our sense of touch is one of the most powerful connecting senses we have. For example, you can talk to a person, and as they talk you can feel drawn to this person, because as they talk, the more comfortable you feel with this person. And as you are talking, if they reach out and touch your hand, it can send shivers down your spine, like little pinpricks on your skin. Find an excuse to touch, she'll love it.

Quote:
This whole thing about power struggle is, I'm sorry but IMO a load of crap. EVERY woman is turned on by a man who takes charge. If she approaches you, you pick a place to go. Have a backup plan. You pick the next 4-6 dates at absolute least. You dont see women being swept off their feet by men who ask "... I dont know what do you want to do?".
The thing is, it's not a struggle. In the first stages of the relationship, you'll either fall into one role or the other. I don't see anywhere that I said that being submissive would be a good thing to do. I want to say this to all the girls that read this too. Do NOT be submissive to your partner. A healthy relationship is one where both sides hold equal say in what goes on.
__________________
"Asking a bomb squad if an old bomb is still "real" is not the best thing to do if you want to save it." - denim
skier is offline  
 

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47 48 49 50 51 52 53 54 55 56 57 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 66 67 68 69 70 71 72 73 74 75 76 77 78 79 80 81 82 83 84 85 86 87 88 89 90 91 92 93 94 95 96 97 98 99 100 101 102 103 104 105 106 107 108 109 110 111 112 113 114 115 116 117 118 119 120 121 122 123 124 125 126 127 128 129 130 131 132 133 134 135 136 137 138 139 140 141 142 143 144 145 146 147 148 149 150 151 152 153 154 155 156 157 158 159 160 161 162 163 164 165 166 167 168 169 170 171 172 173 174 175 176 177 178 179 180 181 182 183 184 185 186 187 188 189 190 191 192 193 194 195 196 197 198 199 200 201 202 203 204 205 206 207 208 209 210 211 212 213 214 215 216 217 218 219 220 221 222 223 224 225 226 227 228 229 230 231 232 233 234 235 236 237 238 239 240 241 242 243 244 245 246 247 248 249 250 251 252 253 254 255 256 257 258 259 260 261 262 263 264 265 266 267 268 269 270 271 272 273 274 275 276 277 278 279 280 281 282 283 284 285 286 287 288 289 290 291 292 293 294 295 296 297 298 299 300 301 302 303 304 305 306 307 308 309 310 311 312 313 314 315 316 317 318 319 320 321 322 323 324 325 326 327 328 329 330 331 332 333 334 335 336 337 338 339 340 341 342 343 344 345 346 347 348 349 350 351 352 353 354 355 356 357 358 359 360