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raeanna74 · 04-26-2004, 04:01 PM

If he's blowing you off during the times that he is supposed to get to see you then I'd be a little upset.

If he's just spending his time, during those 11 1/2 days that he doesn't get to see you, with his friends and not on the phone with you then I wouldn't worry.

I can understand your desire to talk to him during the time that you are apart. Have you spoken to him about it? Perhaps you could promise him that your phone calls will only take 10 mins or some specified period of time so that he doesn't have to worry about being stuck on the phone for a long time. Most guys I know don't enjoy sitting on the phone a long time just talking. When you are talking try asking him what he's been doing and not just talking about how things are with you and how you've been feeling emotionally. Everyone likes to talk about themselves much more than listen about someone else. By encouraging him to talk about himself you can make the calls more pleasant. Ask for only a certain number of calls a week and maybe specify a certain time when he or you would call so that he can make all the other plans that he wants to. This way you still get to connect while you are apart and he still has the freedom to do what he wants.

If it's on the time when you are together then give him some time away from you. Don't smother him. Just ask him how long he's going to take. Asking him to set the time for himself gives him the freedom to control how long you are apart on your weekends together and also gives him a concret time in his mind when he'll come back to be with you. I know myself when I get into a video game or on the computer that sometimes time will pass me by and before I know it I've spent hours. It helps if I know I'm only going to be doing it for a certain amount of time.

Don't freak out too much. Sometimes it's hard to peal yourself away from a video game so don't take it as a statement on your relationship status. Good Luck.

04-26-2004, 04:01 PM	#26 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	If he's blowing you off during the times that he is supposed to get to see you then I'd be a little upset. If he's just spending his time, during those 11 1/2 days that he doesn't get to see you, with his friends and not on the phone with you then I wouldn't worry. I can understand your desire to talk to him during the time that you are apart. Have you spoken to him about it? Perhaps you could promise him that your phone calls will only take 10 mins or some specified period of time so that he doesn't have to worry about being stuck on the phone for a long time. Most guys I know don't enjoy sitting on the phone a long time just talking. When you are talking try asking him what he's been doing and not just talking about how things are with you and how you've been feeling emotionally. Everyone likes to talk about themselves much more than listen about someone else. By encouraging him to talk about himself you can make the calls more pleasant. Ask for only a certain number of calls a week and maybe specify a certain time when he or you would call so that he can make all the other plans that he wants to. This way you still get to connect while you are apart and he still has the freedom to do what he wants. If it's on the time when you are together then give him some time away from you. Don't smother him. Just ask him how long he's going to take. Asking him to set the time for himself gives him the freedom to control how long you are apart on your weekends together and also gives him a concret time in his mind when he'll come back to be with you. I know myself when I get into a video game or on the computer that sometimes time will pass me by and before I know it I've spent hours. It helps if I know I'm only going to be doing it for a certain amount of time. Don't freak out too much. Sometimes it's hard to peal yourself away from a video game so don't take it as a statement on your relationship status. Good Luck. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.