I have found it beneficial to myself to plan my own birthday party. When I do this, there is no way in hell that I am going to let myself down on my favorite day of the year. If others want to come along for the ride, that's great! but I don't expect anything out of anybody. That way they will never let me down. Make it your day and do what you want! And if there is something that you want or expect out of your friends, let them know. I usually start telling my friends about silly little things that I am interested in about 3 weeks before my bday. That way they have an idea and I hopefully wan't get something that I don't want...
