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I just hope that she is still attracted to me...and doesn't require all that 'gushy' stuff to get her in the mood.
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Learn to enjoy the 'gushy' stuff, don't just do it to get her in the mood. Touching and being touched is one of the best feelings you can have. The pleasure you can get from cuddling isn't the same as an orgasm, but it is still a pretty hardwired response.
And, as a bonus, you can do a non-trivial amount of it on a public bus. Well, you can do the other as well, but, you get what I mean.
(In addition, practically, doing "gushy" stuff in order to get laid can so result in a bad conditioned response from your partner. They learn quickly that cuddling implies you want sex from them. Thus, if they aren't in the mood for sex and you start cuddling, they'll react with that knowledge. If you cuddle for reasons unrelated to "I want sex now!", the positive response from cuddling won't be infected with a possible "you only touch me when you want something from me" negative response. This is just another reason to learn to enjoy cuddling for cuddling's sake, if you need it.)