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I like Lebell's rules. In addition I would want to have a serious talk with the kid. Where did he get the stuff, how. Then depending on his attitude I would be more harsh or lenient.
My brother started drinking at 15. Coming home drunk numerous times. He also had a anger problem. The two together don't mix at all. Ended up harming both my parents in anger. They let him do it. I would tolerate a bad attitude less than the drinking.
I would say - no drinking in my home until you are 21. Also No driving home drunk or I call the cops. I'm serious. My brother ended up getting put in jail and the problems he put my parents through affected me even though I didn't live at home anymore. I won't tolerate behavior that puts the kid in opposition to the law. I WON'T stand between her and the law. I will give her warning. ONE warning. Next time she gets to deal with the law.
Also once you are 18 if you drink in my home before you're 21 - you're out. I do drink - on rare occasions. It's not like I'm against alcohol. It's just that it's not that important or that great that you have to break the law for the sake of FUN.
After you are 21 go ahead, drink, have fun. Don't drive. Also - you throw up on my floor because you drank too much- you clean it up.
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