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John Henry · 04-13-2004, 09:45 AM

If a personal perspective helps: I often want to kill myself and think about it quite seriously a lot of the time (like every day), to the extent of researching ways of doing it and planning notes. I have spoken to various people about it (nobody professional, though) with very little consequence. I sort of want to get commited, but don't really. I think it's the same with suicide. I like the idea of it, but I know I wouldn't go through with it.

I think this is the case for most people who talk about it a lot, so I hope that puts your mind at ease.

The other thing I would say is that if I were to decide to go through with it, there would be nothing anyone could say or do to stop me. My decision to stay or go is entirely my own and I think that is the same with most people. I have a friend who would tell you that I talked him down from topping himself, but I think that really, talking to me just gave him something to do while he calmed down.

So if she does top herself, DON'T go blaming yourself for getting involved/not getting involved/saying the right thing at the wrong time/wrong thing at the right timje/whatever. Anything like that is bullshit. If she does do it, it will be her decision.

Other than that, I really don't know what course of action to recommend.

Hope everything works out OK.

04-13-2004, 09:45 AM	#10 (permalink)
John Henry Addict Location: Grey Britain	If a personal perspective helps: I often want to kill myself and think about it quite seriously a lot of the time (like every day), to the extent of researching ways of doing it and planning notes. I have spoken to various people about it (nobody professional, though) with very little consequence. I sort of want to get commited, but don't really. I think it's the same with suicide. I like the idea of it, but I know I wouldn't go through with it. I think this is the case for most people who talk about it a lot, so I hope that puts your mind at ease. The other thing I would say is that if I were to decide to go through with it, there would be nothing anyone could say or do to stop me. My decision to stay or go is entirely my own and I think that is the same with most people. I have a friend who would tell you that I talked him down from topping himself, but I think that really, talking to me just gave him something to do while he calmed down. So if she does top herself, DON'T go blaming yourself for getting involved/not getting involved/saying the right thing at the wrong time/wrong thing at the right timje/whatever. Anything like that is bullshit. If she does do it, it will be her decision. Other than that, I really don't know what course of action to recommend. Hope everything works out OK. __________________ "No one was behaving from very Buddhist motives. Then, thought Pigsy, he was hardly a Buddha, nor was he a monkey. Presently, he was a pig spirit changed into a little girl pretending to be a little boy to be offered to a water monster. It was all very simple to a pig spirit."