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The general rule in our home has been:
If you are drunk you must call home for a ride. I will pick you up and I will talk with you the next day, most likely with some consequences; however if you drive home drunk there will be extreme consequences.
If you are old enough to drink, you are old enough to live outside the home. Yes, my 18 year olds were offered a beer once they were on their own and in the military as I agree, old enough to serve, old enough for a beer.
The big deal for me is that alcholism runs heavily in the kids' dad's family; so we would have very serious discussions all along.
By the way, I agree with Lebell, if it is a habit and the kid refuses to stop, then he/she is out of the house. I believe in tough love.
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