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There are some pluses and minuses to having premarital sex. I'm speaking as one that had lots of experience (when my wife was a virgin on our wedding night). The big plus was that we both weren't fumbling around on our wedding night. The minus was that she had a bad experience the first night (when her hymen busted she was bleeding profusely-apparently happens in a small percentage of cases), and we ended up at the emergency room. The minus of this was that she had an immediate problem with sex and since I had so much experience I wasn't as laid back about the "quickness" it took her to get to enjoy sex (try 6 to 8 months). However if I hadn't have been experienced enough to help her get to that point I'm not sure how it would have worked out.
Premarital sex also told me that sex is sex and that there is really not that much difference between people. A person who is "bad" at sex can be taught to be good. Some people are just better at it in general just due to mindset, but the difference in great and mind-blowing is very subtle. I also suspect that the mind-blowing sex you have with a stranger rapidly diminishes as mind-blowing as you get used to it (although I was never in a longer-term relationship with a girl who was very good).
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