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raeanna74 · 04-06-2004, 06:54 PM

NO.

I ended up marrying the man I had sex with the first time.

I do regret my parents and religion raising me to believe that it was a terrible sin to have sex outside of marriage at all and that the only way to right that sin at all was to actually marry your sex partner. My mom says she never said that to me but every time we heard about someone getting pregnant before they got married or even just jumping in bed before marriage my parents would say things like "I sure hope they get married. Then everything will be, ok." As if marrying the person would fix it.

Hubby and I both were raised to believe that and we married each other not out of love but out of a sense of obligation. Thinking we had to FIX this for ourselves and each other. It was a rough first year or two while we actually resented being married, didn't feel love toward each other, and worked through our emotions and religious preconceptions.

I don't regret having sex before marriage. Especially with dei37. I also don't regret having married him. I have grown to love him more than I though possible.

I ONLY regret having felt that sex before marriage made me obligated to marry someone that I didn't really love.

04-06-2004, 06:54 PM	#9 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	NO. I ended up marrying the man I had sex with the first time. I do regret my parents and religion raising me to believe that it was a terrible sin to have sex outside of marriage at all and that the only way to right that sin at all was to actually marry your sex partner. My mom says she never said that to me but every time we heard about someone getting pregnant before they got married or even just jumping in bed before marriage my parents would say things like "I sure hope they get married. Then everything will be, ok." As if marrying the person would fix it. Hubby and I both were raised to believe that and we married each other not out of love but out of a sense of obligation. Thinking we had to FIX this for ourselves and each other. It was a rough first year or two while we actually resented being married, didn't feel love toward each other, and worked through our emotions and religious preconceptions. I don't regret having sex before marriage. Especially with dei37. I also don't regret having married him. I have grown to love him more than I though possible. I ONLY regret having felt that sex before marriage made me obligated to marry someone that I didn't really love. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.