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Averett · 04-05-2004, 10:22 AM

Here's the thing. I have this friend who I care a lot about. I hesitate to use the word Love in the romantic sense, but I guess I'm not too far off from that. Anyway, I've known him for nearly 3 years now. Of course this is one of those online - long distance things. We talk a lot and I've been to visit him twice. I know that he cares about me, but I guess I wonder at what level. Can he see a relationship with me, or does he figure we're best off as friends? I can see myself in a relationship with him, of course that would mean moving to Canada which I wouldn't mind at all.

I've sort of half assed asked him how he felt a few times before. But I've never came right out and said "How do you feel about me?" or anything of that sort. It was more along the lines of "Gee you're a great guy. A girl would be lucky to be with you." And the response would be "Yeah, but I fuck up relationships."

So what I'm asking is this. Should I go ahead and ask him outright if he can see any possibility of us as an us? Or should I not?

I don't think that he would be interested. But I can't know if I don't ask. Of course if I ask I'm running the risk of him saying "Hell no I'd never want to be with you, silly girl!" But I think that's better than always wondering. I feel like I need closure.

So vote in the pretty poll up top, and give me some advice.

Thanks!

04-05-2004, 10:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	In need of some advice... Here's the thing. I have this friend who I care a lot about. I hesitate to use the word Love in the romantic sense, but I guess I'm not too far off from that. Anyway, I've known him for nearly 3 years now. Of course this is one of those online - long distance things. We talk a lot and I've been to visit him twice. I know that he cares about me, but I guess I wonder at what level. Can he see a relationship with me, or does he figure we're best off as friends? I can see myself in a relationship with him, of course that would mean moving to Canada which I wouldn't mind at all. I've sort of half assed asked him how he felt a few times before. But I've never came right out and said "How do you feel about me?" or anything of that sort. It was more along the lines of "Gee you're a great guy. A girl would be lucky to be with you." And the response would be "Yeah, but I fuck up relationships." So what I'm asking is this. Should I go ahead and ask him outright if he can see any possibility of us as an us? Or should I not? I don't think that he would be interested. But I can't know if I don't ask. Of course if I ask I'm running the risk of him saying "Hell no I'd never want to be with you, silly girl!" But I think that's better than always wondering. I feel like I need closure. So vote in the pretty poll up top, and give me some advice. Thanks!